Stop Avoiding Pictures Because You’re Overweight!
Warning: Adult Language
Please do not read any further if you are offended by adult language. There are F-Bombs ahead.
Today I wanted to share with you something that is very personal to me and something that I truly struggle with. I don't want you to have this same mark on your conscious. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear these words decades ago. I'm hoping it gives you some perspective and saves you the guilt I harbor over this.
One of my biggest regrets (and I don't have many) is not taking pictures with my girls when they were little. I was morbidly obese and didn't want my picture taken, ever. I felt so disgusting that I ducked out of pictures and refused to pose for them. I always said to myself, ‘someday when I lose my weight, I’ll take a bunch of family pics and pics with my girls.’ Ten years went by and I was still saying that same shit. Ten fucking years of zero tangible evidence that I was a mommy. Those 10 years covered the entire span of years that my daughters were little.
I have left my girls virtually no picture memories of me and them together, no picture proof that their mommy loved them and cherished them with all of her heart. No snapshots of hugs and kisses or giggles. Nothing. I so sorely regret it that I still cry over it today. Twelve years AFTER I lost my weight, I still cry. All of the hundreds of pictures I've taken with my girls since I lost my weight doesn't make up for any of the lost time, not even a tiny bit.
I wish so badly I would've known then what I know now. I look back on the few pictures I do have of myself at 262 pounds and I don't see a fat and ugly woman like I used to. I see a beautiful woman who loved her family and friends fiercely and who treated people with kindness even though she battled debilitating demons all day, every day. It took me losing 120 pounds to truly realize that I've been beautiful all along. My weight might have told the world how I chose to deal with my problems, but it didn't have anything to do with my worth or beauty.
I think it's safe to say that most of you reading this right now do your own fair share of dodging pictures. I think it's probably also safe to say that many of you look at yourselves in the mirror and think the same horrible things about yourselves as I used to. I want to remind you that no matter how you might think you look, nobody else cares. The people who love you don't value their relationships with you based on your weight. They value you for who you truly are and they treasure you and they want tangible memories of you to keep and to cherish.
Please don’t make the same mistake that I did. Give your babies (and all of your family members and friends) tons of pictures that they can look through and smile at throughout their entire lives and after you’re gone. Give them something they can show their kids and their grand kids… and maybe even great grand kids. You will regret it someday if you don’t.
So go ahead, get in those dang pictures! You are an absolute treasure to the people who love you and they don’t care how much you weigh! Give them something to remember you by and know that those pictures will mean the world to them.
I’m wishing you all a great rest of your week, one where you maybe even decide to say cheese :)
Xoxo,
Gabby
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