FAT OR FIT: You Need This Reminder!

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I just wanted to send out a reminder to all of you beautiful women who don't feel so beautiful. Being overweight can really mess with your head. It makes you see yourself, others, and the world around you in a distorted way. Your perception gets twisted so badly that you start seeing everything all wrong.

What you weigh does NOT define who you are. The size of your clothes does not have any impact on your worth. The people who care for you don't see you based on your outside. They love you for what's on the inside.

And in regards to lesser acquaintances and strangers, believe me when I say, they don't give a shit. They're far too busy battling all of the stress that's clunking around in their own brains and way too enrapt in their own lives to worry about how big your ass is. Trust me on this.

Don't be fooled into thinking that your extra weight somehow makes you the center of the universe. 

Whether you need to lose 200 pounds or you're fit and trim, people think about you the same amount of time... and it's not a lot. You're lucky if you get a few minutes in people's crowded minds.

When I was 262 pounds I was so consumed with my weight I thought everybody else was too. Nobody cared. And even if by chance I'd run into someone from high school or college and then they ran to tell somebody that Gabby got fat. Why the hell did I care? 

#1: I did get fat.

#2: I'd be the 'IT' topic for about 15 seconds before somebody else chimed in with more exciting gossip. I'm sure so-and-so who got arrested or whats-his-name who cheated on his wife would quickly take the top spot on the Gossip Nightly News. Me getting fat was boring news. People get off on talking about crazy ass stuff, not some wife and mommy who likes brownies. BFD.

If people love you and care about you, it has nothing to do with what you weigh. The same is true for the opposite. If somebody doesn't like you or doesn't get along with you, it has nothing to do with your weight. 

We all have our own ideas, opinions, values, humor, dreams and aspirations, compassion, ethics, and character. Every single thing that lives inside of us is what makes us who we are. THAT is what defines us, not our external shell.

Don't be fooled into thinking that your extra weight somehow makes you less than anybody else.

I made that mistake. For 10 years I convinced myself that I was weak and undeserving. I felt like if I could let myself get to be so overweight, then something must be really wrong with me. I failed to accept the fact that I was human. 

Life throws punches. Shit happens. Forgive yourself and move on. Believe me, you'll have plenty more mistakes that you'll make throughout your life. It's best to learn now how to forgive yourself so you can gear up for the next time you drop the ball. After all, practice makes perfect.

Through every stage of your life, you're gonna drop the ball. We all do. You wanna know what makes us stand out from the rest and what makes us a better version of ourselves? When we pick the damn thing up.

Don't just kick it around on the ground feeling sorry for yourself. Pick that bastard up and shoot for the hoop again. One of these times you're going to make the shot... and you're gonna get nothin' but net, baby.

It wasn't until AFTER I lost all of my weight that I finally and truly understood that my weight didn't matter to anybody but me. Nobody in my life looked at me like I was a failure because I was fat. And nobody in my life loved me any more when I lost the weight. I was still Gabby to those who loved me. For all those years, what the scale said had no bearing on anyone but me.

Fat or fit, my family loved me just the same.

262 Pounds

138 Pounds

Learn from my mistake and stop thinking that you are less of a person because you need to lose weight. That is toxic thinking and believe me, it will eat away at your soul. 

Okay so you got fat. Now what? Are you going to spend your whole life beating yourself up for it? Are you going to spend your whole life thinking everybody is as obsessed with it as you? The only cure to all of this is to decide to change, to change what you do or to change how you think, preferably both.

Having a CHOICE is a powerful thing. You can choose to stay overweight or you can choose to get healthier and lose weight. Either way, you are still you. You are still beautiful. 

If you choose to not lose weight, then rock your body and learn to love it. If you choose to lose weight, then rock all the different stages your body will go through. Don't wait until you hit goal weight to feel proud, be happy, or love your body.

The real CHOICE is not whether you're going to lose weight or not. The real CHOICE is whether you're going to feel beautiful or not. 

My wish for all of you sexy bitches is that you CHOOSE BEAUTIFUL.

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